We talk a good deal about the reasons people buy homes instead of continuing to rent apartments, but one reason is neighbors.
When you own a home the neighbors are not upstairs practicing flamenco dancing at 2 in the morning, or if you’re in a co-op or condo and they are doing that, your management company or co-op board is a lot more likely to be pro-active about making sure the castanets and heels get put away before you have to be.
Homeowner neighbors generally get along pretty well. You share schools, property values, and so many things, except usually walls and so getting along is usually pretty easy. Let them practice that flamenco, they might as well be taking a 2am mime class for all that it effects you.
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There are, however, the times when a good fence is not enough to make a good neighbor. In fact, a concrete wall, barbed wire and a moat are not enough to keep out the proverbial neighbor from hell. We say proverbial because we’re taking it that your neighbor does not actually pay the toll on the bridge across the river styx to get to work.
That sort of neighbor can reduce the value of a property by as much as 20%.
Usually hard feelings come because of choices they make that you would not. Just this week, The Los Angeles times did a story about a La Crescenta , California woman who painted her house neon green with bright purple trim. Neighbors trying to sell their home say they haven’t had one showing since this giant live-in lime appeared on their block. What can you do when you have a neighbor even Mr. Rogers might not have wanted in his neighborhood?
Sid Davis wrote “A Survival Guide to Selling a Home,” and he has some tips.
First, reason with your neighbor. By the way, that’s what the folks are doing who live on the block where it’s not easy being green. They’re trying to stay positive and showing how her taste in colors has affected not just their sensibility [that may get too personal and just start a fight], but their pocketbook, something most people can understand. Starting out with a smile and saying “I’m sure we can resolve this together,” gives you more of a chance to get somewhere, because it is less a personal attack than making the neighbor realize that they depend on your good taste and cooperation as much as you do on theirs.
Davis also suggests that if they say….well, I just did all this work, then you volunteer to do the work that will resolve the problem. Yes, I know, why should you paint their house, or trim their tree or whatever? Well, because if it does help your home’s value, you might just as well be working on your own home. It’s a good investment in both property value and keeping the peace. Sometimes when the neighbor’s property is ill-maintained, it’s not because they don’t care, but because in this economy they can’t afford to do the work, or maybe they are elderly or disabled.
If you are turned down by your neighbor, don’t be afraid to call your REALTOR®. What? Your REALTOR ®? Yes, they may have sold that person their house and have a relationship with them, or know the person who did. They also may know how similar situations have been resolved and have some good tips or who the person in the know at city hall is who is good at this stuff.
Davis writes that lawsuits are a last resort. Lawsuits do lasting damage , cost you money and unless it’s a zoning dispute or a violation of codes may not get you anywhere. Some communities have mediation services that do a good job with these sorts of disputes.
A little effort can go a long long way. No names here, but we had a neighbor known for being…well, quirky. Kept to himself, his yard was always in disarray and everyone complained about him. One day he got sick, an ambulance came for him and though we had never exchanged two words, I went to the hospital to check on him. He was so moved, he changed completely. We became friends, and when either one of us went away we looked after the other’s plants, pets and homes.
Sometimes just coming over with some cookies when you first move in comes under the heading of preventive maintenance. It’s amazing how much help down the road can be bought with a few chocolate chip cookies at first acquaintance.
Yes, there are problem neighbors, but mostly they are people who share your concerns about neighborhoods, schools, police and fire protection. They collect the paper from the driveway when you’re away and offer you a ride when the car breaks down.
Good fences can make good neighbors, but good neighbors can make you forget why you even have a fence. They are, in many ways, one of the best things about being a homeowner.